'Aikido Defense' image courtesy of mayoacademy.com
One must understand that a threat is born from a place of fear, rejection, perceived pain and difference. It’s expected that One should respond to a threat from the same place of inner fear, and become defensive–build a wall, and protect One’s self from the apparent danger or discomfort.
Though, what would be different if One responded with great gentleness? Firm, yet friendly? Stern, but centered? We can change what it means to threaten and be threatened by changing our perceptions of possible outcomes. (more…)
'Listening Armor' image courtesy of Volodymyr Goinyk
When there is difference of opinion to discuss, it’s often an individual’s immediate response to suit up mental armor around their argument. No matter how strong the advance, or how sophisticated the artillery of evidence coming from the opposing side, their armor is impervious. Their perspective protected, the issue a stalemate.
Though this may be a sign of strength, sheltered within someone’s armor is also their ability to listen. By encasing themselves with a tactile defense, they lose grounds for negotiation, and this is when a battle becomes a war.